Comforting someone experiencing a miscarriage is a delicate and deeply personal matter. Miscarriage is a profound loss that can evoke a range of emotions, including grief, guilt, anger, and sadness. Offering support requires sensitivity, empathy, and an understanding that everyone grieves differently. As parents who have experienced the loss of our daughters at 36 weeks, our shop is dedicated to providing miscarriage gifts that offer comfort and healing.
You want to give a thoughtful gift, something meaningful, and you want to give it as soon as possible. As you search for miscarriage gifts, finding the perfect gift can be overwhelming. How do you comfort grieving parents? How do you comfort a mother who has lost a child?
When it comes to pregnancy loss, there is no "thing" you can do or buy to "fix" the loss. Comforting a grieving family is more about showing love and support than buying "things." That doesn't mean you should never give gifts, just be sure those gifts are backed by love and support. Here are some ideas for showing love and support as you seek to comfort a grieving mother.
Listening and Acknowledgment for a Grieving Family 🙏
The best gift you can give is not something you can buy. Unconditional support from a friend or loved one will do more for parents than you know. Loneliness is almost guaranteed for a woman experiencing miscarriage, so letting her know she is not alone comes first. Acknowledge her loss and allow her to express her feelings without judgment or interruption.
Let her lead the conversation, and avoid offering unsolicited advice or trying to rationalize the loss. Phrases like "I’m here for you" or "I’m so sorry for your loss" are simple but powerful acknowledgments that her pain is real and valid. Pregnancy loss is a journey, and no one should have to travel that road alone.
The gift of your support is the first one you should give.
- Tell her she is not alone.
- Write her a personalized note.
- Send her a personalized card with flowers.
- Send her a text when you're thinking of her.
Offering Practical Support During Pregnancy Loss 💞
When we think of miscarriage gifts, we often think of things to buy... but in the days and weeks following a miscarriage, practical support comes first. Offering to help with household chores, preparing meals, or running errands can relieve some of the burden a woman experiencing miscarriage will feel. Sometimes, just sitting with her in silence, offering a comforting presence, is enough. This support demonstrates your care without requiring her to find the courage to ask for help.
Thoughtful Miscarriage Gift Ideas 🦋
A meaningful gift that acknowledges her loss and provides a sense of comfort can be a reminder while you are away. Give her a tangible gift to remember her baby. Here are a few thoughtful gift ideas that are sure to bring comfort:
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Personalized Keepsake: A personalized piece of birthstone jewelry, such as a necklace, can serve as a cherished reminder, something she can keep with her always. A custom-made item, like a shadow box or framed art that has been handcrafted, will bring peace and comfort as she reflects. These can also serve as a way for her to talk about the loss of her baby with other children and family members in a meaningful way.
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Self-Care Comforting Items: Affirmation cards can serve as a constant reminder of God's comfort. A care package including pampering gifts like a soft blanket, calming teas, or a luxurious bath set can encourage her to take time for herself and prioritize self-care. A scented candle with a calming fragrance or a personalized journal for her to write her experiences can also be healing after baby loss.
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Living Mementos: Live flowers or a tree sapling symbolize life and growth and can be a living tribute to their baby. This gesture can offer a sense of hope and a way to honor the memory of the child in a positive way. Seeing the flowers bloom in the spring or the tree grow each year is a beautiful reminder that their baby is remembered.
Respecting Their Space 🤍
While offering support is important, it’s equally crucial to respect their need for space. Grieving is a very personal process, and sometimes they may need time alone to process their emotions. Let them know that you are available whenever they need you, without pressure.
Friends and family will be eager to help, but that doesn't mean they know how. Be careful not to take anything personally if the mother rejects your efforts at the moment. Give her the gift of space, and be willing to offer gifts even if they are initially rejected.
Long-Term Support ❤️🩹
Grief doesn’t have a timeline. Remember to check in during the weeks and months following the miscarriage. Milestones like the baby’s due date or the anniversary of the loss can be particularly painful. A thoughtful note, a small gift, or even just a text to say you’re thinking of them can provide comfort during these times.
- Send a card, bring some flowers, text, or visit your friend on the baby's due date.
This is a gift that gets sweeter with time. Most parents receive support for up to 30 days after pregnancy loss. They are showered with gifts and support at the beginning, only to feel forgotten in the long run. Yet a mother's greatest fear is that her baby will be forgotten.
Everyone wants to be the first person to give a gift, but it is the last person who gives a gift that is truly remembered. If you have a friend who is experiencing a miscarriage and want to give them a thoughtful gift that will ensure her baby is remembered, just remember her baby.
The longer friends and family remember a baby loss, the more beautiful that gift will become, and the more supported and loved the mother will feel.
The Perfect Miscarriage Gift 🤍
The gift of remembering. After everyone else has forgotten, a friend or husband who remembers years down the road will make this gift more perfect every year. This is the gift a friend or loved one can't buy; it’s the gift that proves a miscarriage is not something you have to experience alone.
That’s why we created "We Remember," a gift-giving program to remember angel babies. When you order any gift from our store and personalize that gift with an angel's name and birthday, we will remember them on their anniversary, first by email.
There will also be an invitation to join our gift exchange where angel families all over the world are giving to honor their angel babies. Truly, when we do good because we have experienced the loss of a child, we prove that "there is no foot too small to leave an imprint on this world." We also make the world a better place. 🌎👣